Life & Times of the Semi-Domesticated Irish Bear

So...you've decided to give it another go. This usually results in one party recognizing the error of their ways.....aaaand the other using it as leverage for the undetermined future. Sorry kids, in many ways it's just that simple. Usually yourself or former partner says "I made a horrible mistake, I'll do anything it takes to make this work" These are comforting, but often hollow words. I mean in all seriousness, how many of us really....truly will do "Whatever it takes"? Few, in fact. In reality...and this goes back to my constant pounding on the misuse of words and subtle altering of words and statements to fit a situation. Most people are only willing to go so far in fixing a relationship. Unfortunately MOST of that travel involves the other party altering what they do and say. I have been a party to this sad to say on many occasions. And have had it done on me. Most of us in my age group (30-40+) know better than to believe this....yet we still

Hello all, continuing with my mental dump I thought I'd touch on how things are often handled in a break up or make up. 9 for 10 you have one side that handles it better than the other, either because it's what they want, because they throw up a facade, or because they've already moved on to the next guy on their family list, lol. I think where things get twitchy is the lack of honesty. Really, even in a breakup there is alot of lying going on. It seems, for whatever reason, folks tend to lie, deflect, or dodge the uncomfortable truths you come across. Now this can be from a sense of shame when they look at their own actions and positions, desire to shield the other party from pain, fear over a hidden detail, or just because it's the path of least resistance. I have done my fair share of bullshitting, believe me. So I know a manure truck when it pulls up. Yet some people insist on maintaining ridiculous cover stories. Why? Pride? Perhaps. I think often the truth..t

A few random thoughts that have been rolling around for awhile. No particular order. Just figured I'd get them on "Paper" and maybe that will help. Some of these have been things that have been rolling around in my head for years, some recent. How do you let go of pain, without visiting it upon others? Can you really get past some pains without transferring them? How do you cope with impending loss? When you know...KNOW something is about to go sideways...how do you deal with that? What do you do when the important people in your life go from an integral part of your life, to just a memory? A collection of pictures and messages...trinkets? How do you fill that void? What do you do when someone you've tied your life to, or based a large part of your future on, has gone? I have often wrote that the only constant is change...but how do you maintain your path, your goals...in spite of that change? We all have an idea...in our heads of how life is supposed to be